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Inner Bonding: A Journey of Self-Love, Healing, and Personal Growth Through Reconnecting with Your Inner Child, Overcoming Negative Emotions, and Cultivating Joyful Relationships Paperback – June 5, 1992

by Margaret Paul (Author)

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Inner bonding is the process of connecting our adult thoughts with our instinctual, gut feelings—the feelings of the "inner child"—so that we can minimize painful conflict within ourselves. Free of inner conflict, we feel peaceful, open to joy, and open to giving and receiving love.

Margaret Paul, coauthor of Healing Your Aloneness, explores how abandonment of the inner child leads to increasingly negative and destructive feelings of low self-worth, codepenclence, addiction, shame, powerlessness, and withdrawal from relationships. Her breakthrough inner bonding process teaches us to heal past wounds through reparenting and clearly demonstrates how we can learn to parent in the present. Real-life examples illustrate the dynamics of the healing process and show the benefits we can expect in every facet of our lives and in all our relationships.

Inner Bonding provides the tools we need to forge and maintain the inner unity that makes our family, sexual, work, and social relationships productive, honest, and joyful.

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This work teaches us to connect our inner adult (logical conscious mind) with our inner child (instinctual or gut feelings) so that we may live conflict-free lives. Paul has worked extensively with this form of psychotherapy, which she calls inner bonding, and is the author of several books on the subject. Through loving behavior and acknowledgment of that "voice" within ourselves, the author claims that we can satisfy our own needs and not be totally dependent on others for happiness. She gives examples through her counseling work with those who want better family, marital, social, and work relationships and encourages outside help for special problems such as alcoholism, sex addiction, and codependency. This is a very helpful book for both individuals and couples who want to learn how to acknowledge their inner needs and address fears and false beliefs that often stem from childhood. Recommended for large self-help and therapy collections.
- Demetria A. Harvin, "Hospital Medicine," New York
Copyright 1992 Reed Business Information, Inc.

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"A surprisingly powerful process! It teaches us to meet our innermost needs." GERALD G. JAMPOLSKY, M.D., author of Love Is Letting Go of Fear

"The system .... discussed in this book will supply you with the most loving, dependable, supportive friend youll ever haveyourself. What a joy to know youre not alone anymore." LINDSAY WAGNER, actress and co-author of The High Road to Health

"A wake-up call to the most exciting miracle of the universe: your life." PETER AND LYNDA GUBER, film producers

"Inner Bonding is a powerful book for anyone interested in quality relationships. It offers practical tools, not just theory, to help us reach inside and heal those deep problems and addictions that have held us back for so many years." THOMAS CRUM, author of The Magic of Conflict

"Inner Bonding is a welcome addition...... It gives us a pragmatic, solution-oriented framework for resolving inner conflict." -STEPHANIE COVINGTON, PH.D., clinical consultant and author of Awakening Your Sexuality -- Endorsements

"Margaret Paul offers us a simple and very effective tool for healing our inner upsets and quieting the confusion in our minds. I recommend that you use this valuable tool daily on your path to wholeness." SUSAN JEFFERS, PH.D., Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, and Dare to Connect

"This special book will be deeply appreciated by anyone wishing to heal, love, and grow. Every page has valuable insights and strategies to enrich your life and all your relationships. Reading this book is a healing experience." -HAROLD H. BLOOMFIELD, M.D., author of Making Peace with Your Parents and Making Peace with Yourself -- Endorsements

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Publisher ‏ : ‎ HarperOne; First Edition (June 5, 1992)
Language ‏ : ‎ English
Paperback ‏ : ‎ 240 pages
ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 0062507109
ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-0062507105
Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 2.31 pounds
Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 6.12 x 0.6 x 9.25 inches

Best Sellers Rank: #53,008 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
- #814 in Happiness Self-Help
- #1,129 in Motivational Self-Help (Books)
- #1,414 in Personal Transformation Self-Help

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DR. MARGARET PAUL is a bestselling author, popular MindBodyGreen writer and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® self-healing process, and the related SelfQuest® self-healing online program - recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. She has appeared on numerous radio and television shows (including Oprah). Her book titles include "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved By You" (and subsequent titles "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved By God", and "...By My Kids"), "Healing Your Aloneness" and "Inner Bonding", and the recently published, "Diet For Divine Connection" and "The Inner Bonding Workbook." Margaret holds a PhD in psychology, is a relationship expert, public speaker, consultant and artist. She has successfully worked with thousands and taught classes and seminars for over 50 years. Go to http://www.innerbonding.com/welcome for a free Inner Bonding course and join Dr. Margaret for her "Love Yourself" Course at http://www.innerbonding.com/show-page/224/love-yourself-a-30-day-inner-bonding-experience.html.
Margaret lives in Colorado. She has three children and three grandchildren. In her spare time, she loves to play with her grandchildren, paint, ride her horse, read, make pottery and kayak.
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Great life lesson that makes immediate sense
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Ever heard the expression, it’s not your fault but you are accountable? Well, heres the explanation! Mind, body, soul. Inner child, adult, goddess. This explains the inner dynamic and how you can control/cultivate it. Your inner child will thank you.

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...we would have the means to create real and lasting peace. Because we experience the world as we are, the way we relate to the world will be a direct reflection of the way we relate to ourselves. This book offers a framework within which we can relate to ourselves and others in an authentic, healthy, and empowered way. I acquired it at the advice of my Conscious Uncoupling coach as I faced the dark abyss of divorce from my husband of eight years. Every possible feeling of abandonement and worthlessness surfaced, and in spite of the urge to protect myself by getting angry and blaming everything on him, I dove deep inside of myself and discovered the ways in which I had implicitly agreed to be treated in the ways he was treating me...because they were mirroring the ways I was treating myself! After making that mind-blowing discovery, I committed to connecting with and prioritizing the happiness of my inner child, who was feeling worthless and abandoned by me. Once I began putting her needs first, listening to her input and taking loving action on her behalf, I started noticing some pretty significant positive shifts in the ways I was relating to the people in my life. I'd like to say that everything worked out with my husband, but that's not the case. We're still getting a divorce, but I see this as a chance to move on from my old paradigm and into a healthy new one, where I can give and receive the love I deserve. Now just imagine if all of the world leaders did this kind of work, instead of allowing their inner toddlers to run the show. It's up to us to step up and be leaders in our homes, peer groups and communities by taking on the responsibility to be there for ourselves and make sure that our needs are getting met--not at the expense of, but in concert with, those around us. If just a few of us step up, it can make a huge difference in the world. Get the book, do the work, and experience real and lasting peace, happiness and freedom in your life! I believe in you!

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Great book for your journey to self healing. Recommended by a friend and I recommended it to another. Must read!

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hard to read, I get mad at it
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I write notes in margins as necessary to vent and argue to my pleasure.

I prefer Patrick Teehan, who recommended this book. I prefer his explanations and examples on his youtube videos MUCH more. He has spun his own personality into it, I think. I persist because he seems to know what he's talking about, it looks like he benefited. The author's style/personality of this book does not vibe with me so much! Reading her sentences is like stepping into an office full of Precious Moments angels --it feel stultifying and frustrating to be around. Other people love them! I do not.

I think some terms she uses I implicitly interpret differently.

Subtext >> supertext, and still valuable.

I have found that I can only open and read bits at a time when books hit my vulnerable parts directly. (Same with Friendtimacy, which I prefer much more. Still an emotional challenge to read.) This is one of them. I think it has helped me improve my relationship with myself, as much as I am able to ingest and put to action the message.

I get similar value out of, and prefer the style of Dr. Caroline Leaf's books, and Thais Gibson's lessons.

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Love this book, thank you Margaret Paul.
Reviewed in the United States on January 4, 2014
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This is a sequel to Healing Your Aloneness. It really could have been added onto the first book and re-published that way. It is very helpful to learn about the inner child dialogue process between the adult and child inside your head. There are many more helpful diagrams in this book than there was in the first book. This book is not just a review of the first book, it is much more than that. It in many ways explains the concept more clearly, with stronger (if lesser) examples. This book is written loudly and clearly, whereas the first book had some ideas that weren't explained as well as they are in this one. This book is for those who want to do serious work on themselves, for those in recovery from addictions, from codependency, from addictive relationships, overeating etc. But it is also for anyone who, as the previous book's title states, is lonely and doesnt know why. Inner Bonding is the solution to loneliness because it teaches me to be there for myself. This book is also spiritual, in that it reaches down to a deep level and transforms my life, daily. It teaches an inner habit. Truly an amazing habit and practice.
I should warn you that God is mentioned in this book as part of this process that is needed. If you read the first book, a 'higher power' is mentioned in that book. It is helpful to believe in some sort of higher intelligence to do this process, and one does not have to actually believe in God for it.

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A different view on emotions
Reviewed in India on October 31, 2024
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The book is a very new perspective on how we deal with pain in our daily life. It is very useful to understand the concept of emotional neglect and understanding why others are the way they are.

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must read
Reviewed in Canada on September 6, 2021
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As a skeptic of self-help books, I totally recommend this book. A must read: it can be even more helpful than therapy. I would also recommend reading "Attached", from a different author, that has a similar method and understanding of looking inwards. Highly recommended for whomever who is willing to go deeper and do some painful inner work in order not to be afraid of feeling whatever we have to feel.

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Her understanding of how to overcome hurtful life events is profound. Her exercises are very helpful.

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inner bonding is a must for everyone
Reviewed in Australia on July 13, 2024
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I loved the heart felt stories of real people discovering how to truly love themselves and heal their painful experiences.

I highly recommend this book to anyone who is ready to takes personal responsibility for creating the life that their heart longs for.

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great method for looking within and validating and loving the self

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